Coach, 40, Weds 16-Year-Old Student
The Hagers are trying to figure out how life went off track for their teenage daughter, Windy.
They envisioned that life for the good student and promising athlete would be filled with dreams of the prom and college, but that all changed this week when Windy, 16, married her high school track coach.
“She was a dream kid,” said her mother, Betty Hager. “We’d never have to worry about Windy trying to get by with something.”
At South Brunswick High School in North Carolina, Windy’s greatest passion was track and field.
“She just always was outside, always running, and her name’s Windy — I guess she was predestined to do love to do that,” Betty said.
But that passion led her down a troubling path.
Special Attention From Coach
During Windy’s freshman year, her 38-year-old track coach, Brenton Wuchae, began taking a more active interest in her, offering to give the 14-year-old rides home from practice.
“He just seemed like a genuine guy, like he was there for the kids,” said Windy’s father, Dennis Hager.
But the Hagers eventually grew uneasy. Their phone bills showed text messages between Wuchae and Windy as late as 2 a.m.
They also discovered worrying e-mails. In one, Windy wrote to a friend, “I don’t care to look at anyone other than him. He is the apple of my eye, I’ve never felt this way for someone, but I just don’t want to lose him because of my parents’ power trips.”
The Hagers confronted Wuchae.
“He assured me there was nothing like that going on, [and that] they were just friends. His intentions were purely appropriate,” Dennis said.
Not satisfied with that answer, the Hagers turned to the school district, which spoke to the coach.
The principal of the high school wrote to the Hagers, “I have seen nothing but a cooperative attitude from the teacher, and to the best of my knowledge, he has not had any contact with Windy since then.”
“School officials can’t be responsible for what happens the other hours of the day, and I would think the relationship developed much more outside of school,” said Brian Shaw, an attorney for the school district.
The Hagers contacted police; they even tried to get a restraining order.
 Track coach Brenton Wuchae and 16-year-old Windy Hagar wed Monday. (ABC News) |
“We’ve tried everybody. We’ve been to the law. We’ve been to the school board,” Betty said. “Our family has come and tried to talk to her. We’ve had people on the phone with her for hours — family, friends. We’ve been to our pastor asking for guidance. We’ve been to his pastor.”
Meanwhile, the Hagers say Windy withdrew, refusing to speak to them until she asked them to sign a consent form so that she and her coach — a man more than twice her age — could get married.
Although anguished, her weary parents gave in.
“Signing those consent forms was the hardest thing I did in my whole life, but we had to move on, it was going to kill us all,” Dennis said.
Monday, Windy and Wuchae married, and he resigned from the school.
But was Windy really old enough to understand her decision? Experts say it’s a difficult situation.
“With most teenagers, they’re not sure yet who’s who and what’s what and what should be done,” said Henry Paul, author of the book “Is My Teenager OK?” “It’s obviously up to the adult figure to set the boundaries.”
Windy and her new husband would not comment for this story, but the Hagers realize what they’ve lost.
“She could have done anything,” Betty said. “She could have set the world on fire. She threw it all away.”
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brad said,
June 23, 2007 at 12:55 am
her parents sound anal. maybe her new husband is a relief for her. maybe her future with him is brighter. there is always divorce, it is not the end of the world!
glenn said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:25 am
i have always thought the age of consent laws are archaic. we cant help who we fall in love with…..age is not an issue…..race certainly isnt these days….and really….there are a lot of 24 year age differences in successful marriages…..this girl can still set the world on fire……good for them….i wish them the best…
janine said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:27 am
Is it just me, or do they look like they could be twins??
Sara Anne said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:29 am
HAHAHA NO I THOUGHT THAT TO…..EXCEPT THAT HE’S TWICE AS OLD THEY TOTALLY LOOK LIKE BROTHER AND SISTER!!!!
admin said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:40 am
She isnt 18 yet…. So does she have the legal right to marry? And that too without her parent’s consent…?
teens of my own said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:43 am
I think its disgusting! Its pretty bad when a 40 year old man can’t find a female his own age….or a close age. Especially with all the online dating sites…. If its “true love” why couldn’t he make her wait two more years at least. He has no control or no respect for her or her family…what a idiot.
crucial said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:43 am
well i understand what you guy(and girls ) are saying .
heres what i think….
1: he lied when he said nothing was going on between him and the student
2: if anything sexual was happening and i really think it was he should be brought up on charges of stautory rape….
3: her parent…wow they just “Gave In” wtf …..if my kid tried some shyt like that i would put a chasity belt on her and throw the damn key away.
4: maybe race sex creed and all that isnt a issue but think like a parent if your child was trying or had adult feelings about a “MAN” (and her ass aint even 18 ) then i think the parent went wrong some where…i mean we all make mistakes as poarents none of us are the model parent but i think the teacher was wrong for marrying that girl…had that been my child i think i would have beat the gym shorts off his azz and then got a restraining order….and if she decided to try and be with him any way then we would seek alternative methods to deter those emotions….its nothing but hormones….we all went though it…she had a crush on a teacher or a older person and he took advantage of her…..maybe when she gets older she will regret it ….but if this is what her heart is truly feeling and she knows for a fact that this is the man she wanna be with …then so be it ….but like i said she is young ….she dont know the game like an adult does…..he probably just wanted some young booty and when he done wit her he will throw her away and damage any self esteem she would normally be building…thanks for reading my chatter ….have a good one everyone….
crucial said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:45 am
well see she had her parents consent when they signed the paper saying that was the best thing for their daughter ….yes he could have waited….and yes there are milllionsssssssssssss of dating sites out there or just jump on aol i mean there is some one he can find his own age or some one who desperate enuff to be with him…..makes me wonder if he a child molester….
teens of my own said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:47 am
BINGO!!!
Don't Doom IT said,
June 23, 2007 at 2:03 am
I have four children of my own. Three girls who have since graduated from college and a son who will have his degree in 2009.
1.) Lay the proper foundation WITH (not FOR) your children
2.) Listen, empathise, and identify w/ THEM instead of imposing your concerns
3.) Be real. Sh!t happens. Do you really love your child? Show it…Though your actions, not w/ your big mouth.
admin said,
June 23, 2007 at 2:22 am
@ Don’t Doom IT…..
I agree with you on those points!
JD said,
June 23, 2007 at 2:24 am
What the hell? Why do people think she’s making a mistake and throwing away her life just because she gets married at 16? She can still go to school. She can still enroll in college. She can still win an Olympic gold medal. She can still discover a cure of cancer. She can still become the next American Idol. She can still pursue all of her dreams. Only now, she’ll pursue them with a new last name. Get over it. Remember folks, it’s only recently, as in the last couple of generations, that we’ve waited so long to get married. Back in our grandparents’ and great-grandparents’ generations, getting married at 14, 15, 16 was the norm! (Don’t believe me? Then ask yours how old they were, or else any other old-timers.) And it had been that way for thousands of years…yes, even in the days of Jesus and before! Now all of a sudden, being a married teen is equated with throwing your life away. And the sexual issue…come on! Would you feel better if she was getting boned by a classmate instead of a 40-year old? A penis is a penis is a penis, whether it’s a 17-year old’s or a 40-year old’s. And most high school teens are having sex anyway, so what makes it different with her. At least she had the decency to get married instead of ho’ing herself around like others. And the comments being critical of the man for not finding somebody his own age…that’s all BS too. Could it be that he simply fell in love with this young lady? Why should he be forced to marry somebody his own age? Let’s extend that sort of logic. Then he should only marry somebody his own race. And only somebody his own height. And only somebody with his own hair color. And somebody with the same job as him. And somebody of the same educational level. And somebody….etc. When you fall in love, it just happens. The age difference is as irrelevant as any of these other qualities. I suppose it’s important for some of you, but apparently it wasn’t for the two of them. So let them do what they want. If it doesn’t work out, then the marriage will end. Woop-tee-doo! So do roughly 50% of all other marriages in this country…even when the bride is of a “mature age”, whatever that means. You lame-brained critics need to take a long hard look in the mirror at yourselves and quit judging the lives of others. How has their marriage harmed you? You’re right…it hasn’t. So shut about it!
Melody said,
June 23, 2007 at 2:45 am
I don’t think that I would have “given in” … I don’t know the Coach/Husband, but hopefully the girl WILL still finish school and get a future before she has kids. It’s probably unlikely - he’s 38 - they’ll probably start a family … I guess the good news is that their kids could be grown and the student/wife would only be about 36 herself. Truthfully - she’ll probably tire of the relationship and the everyday grind of life before the Coach/Husband will … right now the “thrill” factor of doing something different is there … I’d LOVE to see a follow up of this story in about 18 months.
Candy said,
June 23, 2007 at 4:07 am
If she was my daughter I would be very upset. I would not had signed a consent at all. If I had to move out the state to keep her away I would had done that to. Now that it’s a done deal, I would let her know I’m still your mother call me if you need any help or advice and your always welcome to come back home.
And for him, “You better take care of my baby”
Amanda said,
June 23, 2007 at 4:08 am
My grandmother, in the early days, was 15 and my grandfather was 40. He waited until he could have her parents consent. She loved this man. They were married on December 25th. After 6 girls he passed away. She never married or saw another man. He was truly the only man for her.
John said,
June 23, 2007 at 4:26 am
How has it harmed me? How about degradation of society? How about this fool was hired and trusted to impact children’s lives not their cooters? Do you think he’ll be happy growing older with his wife? She won’t be 16 forever. The only positive side I see to this is that he did it the “right way”. Most guys like him begin their romance on a convenience store security camera and end it by filling in a shallow grave
steve fontenot said,
June 23, 2007 at 4:38 am
This public servant took advantage of his position and seduced this young person who was swept up by his charm. Shame on the system that was unable to deal with this legally. Look at what Mary Kae Literno went through, how fair is that. Its possible this could work. Look at Celine Deon and her husband. It worked for them. But let me tell you how often it does not when this type of thing happens. Do you know how many people are serving time for what this dude did. Also, these parents are idiots for participating and signing the consent form. I bet he was not in the room when that request went down. This dude stole their daughter away. I have 4 daughters and if I suspected a coach was becoming intimate with one of them, the response would be swift and scathing. Lets see how she fairs in 10, 15 years. If this does not work, what are the chances of a normal relationship now that this guy has used her for his ammusement. How balanced do you think this relationship is? Again maybe it does work but this dude is dirty for even thinking a relationship with her is possible. We crufify people for this stuff in the military as well. Lives are wrecked. And I don’t care about some of the liberal blogs above, this guy abused his positon. I am sure he was smooth and did not proceed unless the girl made it clear it was OK. Like a predetor does, when the time is right, he strikes. What about respect for the parents. I demand it from my daughters boyfriends. This guy is wrong.
c.fischer said,
June 23, 2007 at 4:51 am
Excuse me……..but as a parent………..and of a boy NOT a girl even……Why is he still walking, breathing etc etc….My first question for sure…………All I have to say is …..I guess NC does things a little differantly……..Oh to have his azzz in Jersey doing something like that……hmmm probably a differant outcome ….Lets see…..what if it was Tony Soprano’s daughter….decisions decisions,,,,,…….Cement feet anyone ?
Samantha said,
June 23, 2007 at 4:54 am
HELLO EVERYONE, the guy is a complete pervert!!! She was 14 when he started “taking interest” in her. Anyone who thinks this is ok is discusting and possibly a pervert as well!! Also, the parents have NO right to complain, it is COMPLETELY their fault!! They could have stopped it YEARS before they gave her CONSENT to marry this pedophile!! I am seriously appalled they are acting so shocked at the situation! They are adults, they should know how easy it is to pursuade and manipulate children, especially when they are at that age when hormones are kicking in and interest is the opposite sex is starting to really matter! The only good to come out of this is that they all have kept him from molesting anyone elses kids…..
zukoff said,
June 23, 2007 at 6:06 am
If only he were black and it was 50 years back. “We” could tie weights to his legs and dump him in the ‘Sippi! And you red-necks could cheer the news…
Sandra said,
June 23, 2007 at 6:12 am
WHAT WERE THESE PARENTS THINKING OR NOT! A child of sixteen does not have the maturity of mind to make an adult decision such as this….. Does the term sexual predator come to the forefront?
JJ said,
June 23, 2007 at 6:34 am
You guys are hilarious. I can’t help but wonder if some of you even read the article. These parents aren’t any worse than those of the 14 year old boy in Florida who refused to prosecute his 27 year old female teacher even though she had “raped” him (Florida’s definition) repeatedly. She walked away with probation. And New Jersey? A female counselor in the NJ school system (as reported in the NY Times) had sexual relationships with three underage male students, married one and had two children. He, of course, dumped her so she went after a developmentally challenged boy next. One of the boys was 13. She was allowed to retire with full benefits, didn’t have to register as a sex offender and no charges were filed. And to the poster who brought up Mary Kay Leturno (sp), this isn’t really the same thing. When she first met the boy she eventually raped, he was 11. I think she got off (no pun intended) really easy. Why is it that as long as the adult is female, everything is okay? I have to laugh when the poster says “we crucify people in the military for this”. That’s a riot. Here’s a news flash, right now in Iraq there are “soldiers” exchanging goods and supplies for sex with girls as young as 14. Everyone knows it’s going on and nothing is done about it because, ultimately, the men feel entitled. And certainly, as long as it’s hetero sex, the military doesn’t care. Many of the men I’ve spoken to actually laugh about it. Most of these guys are married and some have daughters the same age in the states. Believe me, the only people in the military “crucified” because of sex are gay and lesbian.
Brenda said,
June 23, 2007 at 6:53 am
PERVERT!!! Should be in jail.
sam said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:03 am
Its to late now but last year someone should have stopped it not right for a grown man to have those type feelings for what is a child age does matter to a degree And in ten yrs I bet she makes him wish he did not take avantage of a young mind when he cannot keep up with a 25 yr old women some one will proably her own age if not 10 15 he will get his
Dan said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:04 am
The bride should be spanked, the groom should be stoned, and the parents — well I just feel sorry for them. Anyone who thinks this is OK is either younger than 25 or just plain stupid.
Rose said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:18 am
A girl at our church was married when she was 16 and he was 40. Everyone involved in it agreed to it (parents-immediate family members) except the Pastor. In the end the family left the church because of it. 3 children and 10 years later they are still happily married. (Beats the odds on a lot of more mature and age “approproate” couples!) Just goes to show you that kids that age just might know more than we give them credit for and why some of this countries “statutory rape” laws might be a bit archaic and should be revisited.
Karen said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:26 am
Well, I can see Nancy Grace getting ready to trash a newly wed couple, I wonder why everyone is so small minded, My mom married at 16, my dad just recently passed on after 52 years of marriage, He was 28 when they married, My mother was educated remained in school and graduated from college, They raised 5 of us and we had one set of parents.
I just dont understand why everyone has to trash someone because of there beliefs, what does this young lady want, not you but her. Can a 16 year old make a decision? I believe she can.
Love is blind, it has no age color or religion.
Ralph the Mouth said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:29 am
I think that it’s awesome! I’m gonna start checking out the high school chicks. Maybe find me a young hottie to fold my laundry and cook my dinners. Hooray for America!
linda said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:30 am
I think this coach is sick and perverted. He is a child molester like all the rest. As for the parents, I would not have signed any consent. If need be I would have taken her out of the school, placed her in a private school or moved to get away from this sick man. I personally think a 24 year age difference is way too great. I f it were to last, Windy will play nurse maid to a man who will eventually be a burden in later years. A 16 yr old has poor judgement to begin with in relationships, they lack the experience and wisdom. A young woman has so many fish to choose from, why settle for an older man. An older man to me has nothing to offer, especially when a woman becomes educated and has her whole life ahead of her. Woman have independence and confidence and need to quit this idea of “having someone to take care of me.” That is the biggest pile of bull in today’s society. I personally am a strong independent woman and I share my life with a man a decade younger. This makes sense because women statistically live longer than men.
Mom of four said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:37 am
Here’s a thought - way back when he first started offering to give her a ride home they should have said NO - I would never allow my daughter (or my sons) to be alone in a car with an adult man that I don’t know..or that I do know…just not a good idea anymore. It’s MY job to give my kids their rides, not an adult that works at the school. Everyone today knows (or should know) that if an adult shows unusual interest in your child then something strange is going on - that should have been their warning a loonngg time ago. Too many parents today are lazy, they leave raising their kids up to others than seem shocked when something like this happens. And they gave their consent because it was easier than fighting!?!?! Give me a break - parenting isn’t easy. Sounds to me like both parents never had a back bone from the start and they are reaping what they sowed.
Allie said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:53 am
I’ve been married to a man 23 older for 3 years now and all I can say is I have no regrets. I think Americans tend to overreact to situations like this when there really is no cause for concern unless one is just so socially rigid they have a norm for the age for the perfect couple . Girls are maturing much faster than before. It depends on how one sees the situation: Pessimists will have nothing but visions of a dim future. The more enlightened ones will see a bright future, lots of kids, and still enough time to pursue her goals in the years ahead. Advising a man to stick to the net to search for partners his age is sickening. Love happens, and he was responsible enough to marry her.
nancy said,
June 23, 2007 at 7:59 am
I think it’s terrible how everyone thinks they are an expert. Forty two years ago..yes 42 I was 19 he was 44….He was my soul mate. Families were all all upset but realized this was a good thing. We were married 30 years and had a great marriage until cancer took him. So I say sit back, stop judging, and let people live their lives. With lack of marriage and the divorce rate I say good for them. Bless them and hope heir lives will be happier than some of you who say it’s so awful. Leave them alone!
Allie said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:00 am
Though I’d rather cheer on the marriage than condemn it at this point, in retrospect the parents appear to have been out of touch with their daughter for some time–otherwise, the consent form wouldn’t have been such a shocker. I too would have set the boundaries for my 16-year old not to be entrusted to her coach for a ride home much too regularly.
Mom of 5 said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:06 am
This is a sad situation. The poor girl has lost her childhood. Her friends parents and her friends will look at her in a different way. She will no longer have the school parties, hanging out with her peers, going to the movies with her girlfriends.
Chances are her friends will drift away from her and IF her husband has adult friends, I wonder how they will accept her into their fold.
I really feel so sorry for the girl. She is going to miss so much by having to grow up overnight.
When he is 70, she will be 46. The vast age difference is important. It can affect your relationship. You become the caretaker.
If the guy really cared, he wouldn’t have been so selfish and waited until she turned 18. He should have let her grow up and discover who she is.
signed Mom of 5 (ages 22 to 14)
Allie said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:15 am
In the past few decades, with the surge in women’s rights, putting career first and marrying late has become the model. Our ambitiousness then placed a toll on our childbearing capacities and family relations. Lately I’ve also seen the beauty and wisdom of women marrying early then going back to school and setting career goals with a more serious and purposeful attitude– now that the childrearing stage is behind them. The dating game can also stress you out and distract you if you’re still single and studying. Being married to the right guy, and older at that, can be a stabilizing force. Stop overreacting.
Rose said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:19 am
I wish everyone would quite using the arguement that “she will become his caretaker.” None of us knows what the future holds! My son is 10 years older than his girlfriend. She now has MS…..and he is the caretaker. Nancy is right….this couple needs love and support just as any newlywed couple does. Marriage is hard enough for any of us. Why do we find it so easy to judge people by what we think the social norm should be? Maybe just maybe proms, college ect isnt what this girl wants out of life.
Elaine said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:24 am
What a shame ..she will never get back her young, high school years nor the friends that she had or could make in her formative years, they would have nothing to talk about. He, obviously, is a pervert and should be serving jail time, at least that would have given her time to think about it and hopefully see the light of all she was given up. If they still felt the same way after hight school , so be it, The parents should have removed her from the school and pressed charges against him. If he was locked away for a couple of years things would be different, he could find someone in jail to molest. I feel very sorry for her, she is a child and things are a whole lot different than when our grandparents in their teens, that was expected, wowen were expected to work hard and have lots of kids, not a career of their own. Sooo sad.
Allie said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:31 am
So sad of you to think that your youth is just about proms and partying with girlfriends your age. I know a few very intelligent individuals who simply did not dig that in their youth. Open up your narrow minds. Life takes on other forms. I’m sure the man has cousins and nephews and nieces in her age bracket that she can interact with.
LibbeyO said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:43 am
To Betty and Dennis Hager:
Thirty-seven years ago–in my upper middle-class high school–a well-liked older coach/teacher courted and married a student. (They waited until she graduated to wed). Her parents accepted the situation (almost from the start) and welcomed him into the family. That marriage that lasted nearly 20 years and they raised 2 sons. They parted amicably. Her life overall has been no better and no worse than the rest of the 700+ of us who graduated high school that year. In my own situation, while I was an undergrad, an international student and I met and instantly fell in love. He was in his 30s and starting a PhD program after working in various intn’l government positions. He was from a wealthy family (for example, he didn’t know how to drive; he had always had a chauffeur). My parents were very strict and kept close tabs on me–I was only allowed to see him if he came to our house. Eventually, he gained their trust and we were allowed to, say, go to a park for a couple hours or to visit relatives (where I could be supervised). This went on for 2 years–we were so happy together–he adored me and taught me about worlds far beyond my own. He also accepted the fact that my virginity needed to be maintained–an antiquated notion even in the 70s. Not that we weren’t affectionate with each other–but we had boundaries he respected. Inevitably, the time came for him to leave the US. Because of circumstances in each of our lives, we had to ‘let go’ of each other–but only geographically. We have remained in regular contact with each other now for almost 4 decades, and have seen each other on a number of occasions. I have married, divorced, and achieved a successful career. He has had a couple long-time girlfriends, both of whom I’ve known. He is a white-haired ’senior’ now; he remains in gov’t work, but also is involved in philanthropy. Each of us has an elderly mother living under our roof–about which we commiserate. When he and I talk to each other on the phone, every couple months, we inevitably discuss those 2 years we had together in person–a happiness that continues to replay in our memories and richly infuses our lives. Betty and Dennis–the point is: my parents were able to restrict–but not to contain nor destroy–a love affair that defied the boundaries of age, race, religion, culture, geography–and time. He and I are only a phone call or a plane ride away from each other. He and I are still sharing this long, unpredictable journey called Life. (Oh. One more thing. When maintaining my virginity was no longer an issue–we did come together in that way we were not able to in those first couple years. The experience was everything we hoped it would be–and our only regret is that we did not first get to experience it when our love was new.)
j said,
June 23, 2007 at 8:59 am
In Indiana that is a felony. No school personal are allowed to have a relationship like this or they face a charge of child seduction. Class D felony. Its not right and he should be hung up by his toes.
Ann Prater said,
June 23, 2007 at 9:30 am
A FOR SURE PEDOPHILE, DIDN’T HEAR ANYTHING ABOUT HIS FAMILY. THE PRINCIPAL WAS WRONG AND THE DUDE SHOULD HAVE BEEN FIRED ON THE SPOT.
karen said,
June 23, 2007 at 9:36 am
i understand that many women in here have gotten married at a young age and that it worked out great for them and congrats to those couples. BUT let us not ignore and forget how aggressively pedophiles pursie our children. i’m sure you all watch the news as much as i do and everyday i am shocked to see how far a pedophile will go to have sex with a child, some even go as far as murder, they will travel to different countries…these pedophiles will do anything to get to near our children. most pedophiles put themselves in careers where they can be close to children. i do not think most parents send their kids off to school with the notion that it would be ok if a teacher found their child sexual attractive and wanted to date them. we seem to underestimate how driven these pedophiles are. if this were a normal relationship, he would have waited until she was 18 and at least would have let her graduate from highschool first. no one wants to admit this is about a teacher who wanted to sleep with young girls. he started this relationship when she was 14, for all of you who think this is ok when is the right age for a man to start sleeping with a child, 14? 13? 10? 9? because from what i’ve seen on the news these weirdo’s assault children or “fall in love” as these pedophiles say as young 3 and 4 sometimes even younger, what age is the cut off? this will open the gates for these already crazy perverts that are molesting children to find a new LEGAL passage to assault our children. anyone who thinks this relationship is ok does not have any respect for children or women. anyone who thinks this girl will be able to move on with her life normally and become a normal functioning adult is crazy! alot of people in here have mentioned that their parents got married when they were 16, that a different time, where people actually dated and waited before sex. i heard that this guy held her down on in the back seat of his car and just pushed himself inside of her. don’t you all realize how prominent porn is in our culture, most porn mirrors what this guy is doing, and old guy banging some barely legal looking woman. being a single woman over 30 in america must be hard because it looks like most men want their women 18 and under and now they have found a legal way to do it. this should make every parent and every child in america scared as hell, now these pedophiles have found a legal way to have sex with children. what absolutely kills me is that these so called religious people go loco when gays talk about getting married, but it’s ok for a pedophile teacher to have sex with a 14 yr old, i don’t see them protesting this, it’s ok for a priest to be moved from church to church to molest children, but we can’t use stem cell research to save lives, but we save a sick 40 yr old teacher to make one of his students his babywife. SICK AND SAD!
kathy said,
June 23, 2007 at 9:43 am
This man has had interest in this girl since she was 14, Sorry but when you are 14 that makes you a child.. so that would make him a childmolester!!! I hope one day if they stay together that the same thing happends to them with any children they may have then maybe they will understand why this is a problem.
karen said,
June 23, 2007 at 9:54 am
honestly the people that think this relationship maybe ok are honestly sick, someone even blamed the women’s rights movement.? what the hell is wrong with people. you tell me people, what do you think would happen if there no were age limit, what do you think would happen to america if we told men who are actively pursuing young girls that they no longer have to dream that they can have that middle schooler that they want, no problem, and they can even seal the deal at a church, you know that it’s already like that in iran and these men have no problem marrying 7 and 8 yr olds. this is sick, you people need to realize how precious your children are and how many people are there would take away a child’s innocence at any age. this is disgusting
karen said,
June 23, 2007 at 10:00 am
WHY IS IT OK FOR A GROWN MAN TO SLEEP WITH HIS STUDENT AND MARRY HER. BUT IT IS NOT OK FOR GAYS TO GET MARRIED? these religious ppl only want to keep women and children submissive while the horny men and priest have sex with whoever they want! if these adults have relationships with adults they are less likely have the control to mold this person into what they want, but if you start sleep with a woman when she is a child you are more likely to have control over here, this guy now plays the role of daddy/husband because she is still a children. the fbi needs to bust into that house and arrest this man! and get this girl some help, they need to move this girl far far away!
karen said,
June 23, 2007 at 10:01 am
you know what my 53 yr old neighbor is interested in my 9 yr old…..think i should let them date? i mean she won’t have to deal with dating or growing up she can just be a wife at 9 and he can continue to raise her.
Mike said,
June 23, 2007 at 11:07 am
“Although anguished, her weary parents gave in…. The Hagers realize what they’ve lost.”
Anguished? Weary? Did you try saying “no”? Did you tell the school our kids don’t need teachers with an taste for 14-year-olds? Did you speak to the police or DA about this gent?
Sorry, folks, but you didn’t lose it; you gave it away.
great gram said,
June 23, 2007 at 1:56 pm
to adhim! you are so right on! i am a 77 year old great gram married at 16 and married for almost 61 years — to the same man and would do it all over again!!!!today young girls live with their men friends at 13!!!!! the parents should have done something when it first started! i did not marry an older man but had just turned 16 and i feel i missed out on nothing! i wish them many happy years together , it won’t be easy but ohhhhhhhhhhhh what fun and memories for them . i tell those parents ” take one day at a time” love her and him and thank god you still have her. god bless
mom of 5 said,
June 24, 2007 at 9:33 am
I am married to a man who is 13 years my senior. We married when I was 30 and have been together for 29 years, married for 24. I knew him as a friend for several years before we started dating of I guess that I have known him for24 years.
A 40 year old man marrying a 16 year old girl is not the same as two adults marrying.
I have a question for those of you who married at 16 to an older man. Did you all sneak around for a couple of years hiding the relationship or did your husband approach your parents like a man and ask for your hand in marriage?
There is no way that you can compare the life of a teenager 50 or 60 years ago with a teenager’s life today. Look at what kids are exposed to these days. Years ago it was normal for a boy to carry a pocket knife and no big deal if he had it at school. Now kids carry knives and guns to school and slaughter their teachers and peers.
Those of you who don’t see anything wrong with the marriage have a warped sense of values and morals. If the man was a gentleman and his intentions were sincere, he would waited until she was of legal age (it was only 2 years) and then they could have dated publically instead of sneaking around.
I have friends who were high school sweethearts and married after graduating from high school and they are still married. I just don’t understand the pressure and rushing the girl to marry him.
Want to bet that she is pregnant and he fears for himself?
For the girl, I hope that he doesn’t turn into a Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
mom of 5 said,
June 24, 2007 at 9:34 am
opps typo *known him for 34 years*
something else said,
June 24, 2007 at 9:36 am
Yes it is creepy how much they look alike.
A shrink would have a field day with this guy.
admin said,
June 25, 2007 at 4:53 am
yup…. they really do look alike! It’s like a father with his daughter…